If you are currently on, or have ever seriously been on a journey to lose weight, one thing we can all agree on is that breaking up is not easy. Food becomes a lot more than pure nutrition throughout our lives. Let me outline some of the many roles food plays – we make it our friend, comforter, lover, mother, brother, enemy, etc., etc., none of which have anything to do with what food really is – energy.
The powerful questions are:
· What do we do now to create freedom and body image mastery?
· HOW do we take our power back?
In order to get to the heart of the matter – why we overeat or undereat – we need to put down the bat. Being our own worst critic doesn’t work; think about the mean words you sometimes use about your body. Those words hurt – and when we hurt, it’s sometimes tough not to eat.
What if, just for today, you throw away the criticism and the judgment – and no matter WHAT it takes, don’t pick it up. As you read this article, imagine what would fill your soul – enough so you would not need comfort food today.
This exercise starts with a strange direction, but trust me: Put on an outfit with pockets.
· Who can you turn to today to fill your need for companionship? Make a list of names with phone numbers for one pocket; remember to only fill the list with people who make you feel safe, loved, and filled with energy. If you find yourself obsessing about food or how you look, start calling down the list until you get a live person on the phone and courageously talk about your feelings. Fill your mouth with words and emotions.
· What could fill your spiritual needs today? A long walk? A trip to a church or temple? Try getting on your knees right this moment and tell the universe that you do not want to hurt yourself with food. Write down your own prayer – just a few lines, and put it in another pocket. [Later, if you feel compelled to eat in a way that is not self-loving, breath deeply and read the prayer 25 times. The compulsion may be washed away by the universe – and the time it takes to pray. Remember, most compulsions only last three minutes.]
· As you sit here, take a moment and breath very deeply. Fill another pocket with loving affirmations. (Download some at http://www.laurafenamore.com/. Sign up to receive them every day if you like.)
· Put a pen and paper in every empty pocket and talk to yourself on the page. Listen to yourself. Write about your relationship with food. Include your feelings and memories and the people in your life. Write to old “ghosts” and new dreams. Remember that your goal is to provide nourishment to your entire being today – body and SOUL. You can claim your power that fills you from head to toe, not from hand to mouth. Claim your true, brilliant space in this world and claim it TODAY. You are worth the effort.
You may have done many of these exercises before, and that’s great. DO them again. Today is a new day, and our relationship with food and our bodies is also new.
Try on a new story – it goes well with your pockets of possibilities.
Laura Fenamore, CPCC, Body Image Master Mentor
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Tuesday, July 15, 2008
Tuesday, May 13, 2008
Movement: The Key to Your Treasure Chest
No matter where you are with your health, consider today your fresh start – even if you are already active and eat well, we can always stand to “kick it up a notch.” Today, you can begin a journey that has no destination – it is a journey of discovery.
Like a child’s board game, you will turn over many cards on this journey. Some will say, “Take Aerobics Class,” or “Lose 5 Pounds,” others will sometimes say, “Take a Step Backward.” But like a kid at the game table, “Take a Step Backward,” is NOT the end of the game -- you just wait your turn to move forward again.
Every day of your life now becomes much more than a roll of the dice. You are the master of your existence, embracing healthy body imagery and good health. And you are the winner every single moment that you pick up the tools to be 100% fully ALIVE.
Begin by making sure that your toolkit is full of fresh, living food. Add to it movement and companionship. A good walk or a hike with a friend or a yoga class with your best buddy is literally worth its weight in gold. Discover how wonderful you begin to feel when your movement is more than a thousand steps on the treadmill.
Schedule this “play time” as if your life depends on it – because the big secret is that it does. The treasure chest is not buried on a distant island; it is literally beating inside of you this very moment. And make no mistake, your heart was meant to work every single day. Lazy days at desk jobs ending in couch time at the TV literally rob us of precious days and years of our "heart health."
Today, get moving and embrace the one, beautiful you and this one beautiful day.
Celebrate it with healthy choices and a great beginning! If you aren’t sure how to do that or you need to create a new relationship with yourself that includes Body Image Mastery, or if you have been challenged by yo-yo dieting, eating disorder recovery, obesity, etc., feel free to reach out to me at (415) 464-1234 or Laura@LauraFenamore.com for a few tips and heaps of encouragement and inspiration.
This is your one precious and only body and I know you can change whatever you want to change.
I am currently interviewing people to participate in my upcoming 12-week pilot program: Loving What You See in the Mirror (Crucial Components to Permanent Weight Loss). Please email me at once if you would like to be considered; there are only a few openings, so don't delay. I look forward to hearing from you soon.
http://www.laurafenamore.com/
Like a child’s board game, you will turn over many cards on this journey. Some will say, “Take Aerobics Class,” or “Lose 5 Pounds,” others will sometimes say, “Take a Step Backward.” But like a kid at the game table, “Take a Step Backward,” is NOT the end of the game -- you just wait your turn to move forward again.
Every day of your life now becomes much more than a roll of the dice. You are the master of your existence, embracing healthy body imagery and good health. And you are the winner every single moment that you pick up the tools to be 100% fully ALIVE.
Begin by making sure that your toolkit is full of fresh, living food. Add to it movement and companionship. A good walk or a hike with a friend or a yoga class with your best buddy is literally worth its weight in gold. Discover how wonderful you begin to feel when your movement is more than a thousand steps on the treadmill.
Schedule this “play time” as if your life depends on it – because the big secret is that it does. The treasure chest is not buried on a distant island; it is literally beating inside of you this very moment. And make no mistake, your heart was meant to work every single day. Lazy days at desk jobs ending in couch time at the TV literally rob us of precious days and years of our "heart health."
Today, get moving and embrace the one, beautiful you and this one beautiful day.
Celebrate it with healthy choices and a great beginning! If you aren’t sure how to do that or you need to create a new relationship with yourself that includes Body Image Mastery, or if you have been challenged by yo-yo dieting, eating disorder recovery, obesity, etc., feel free to reach out to me at (415) 464-1234 or Laura@LauraFenamore.com for a few tips and heaps of encouragement and inspiration.
This is your one precious and only body and I know you can change whatever you want to change.
I am currently interviewing people to participate in my upcoming 12-week pilot program: Loving What You See in the Mirror (Crucial Components to Permanent Weight Loss). Please email me at once if you would like to be considered; there are only a few openings, so don't delay. I look forward to hearing from you soon.
http://www.laurafenamore.com/
Saturday, May 3, 2008
6 Simple Tools To Support Your Life
In your journey to success, what are you attached to (my I am not enough story) that is not serving you? And what is the impact that this is having on your career? The best plan for anything in life is starting small and taking baby steps. Small steps work as long as they get practiced consistently. If you want to increase sales and feel better about your bottom line, take care of YOUR OWN HEALTH first and success will follow. I suggest you try these simple steps that support you ‘being enough’!
Six simple steps to remind you that you are ENOUGH
Step 1. CREATE A PLAN AS IF YOUR LIFE DEPENDED ON IT! Take 15 minutes in the next 24 hours to write out what you want to change in your life to support (your health and) your career. What behavior(s) do you need to let go of that are limiting your success?
Step 2. PRACTICE SOMETHING NEW EVERDAY! Create a daily practice that will bring this new experience to you effortlessly. Write out what you want. Then do something small everyday to support it. It could be reading a daily affirmation , journaling or listening to something positive everyday that will embody this “new way of being.”
Step 3. SHARE YOUR PLAN! Share what you want to create with someone you feel safe with. Just doing this simple act will invoke change. I promise you that. Or hire a coach.
Step 4. ASK FOR A SEPARATION! Ask the voice of your critic, the one that says, “your not working hard enough” or “you shouldn’t have eaten that” to take a break. Let it know you need a separation for the next couple of months.
Step 5. MAKE NOTES TO YOU! Put notes all over your home, workspace, on your nightstand, your bathroom mirror, reminding yourself that you ‘are enough’!
Step 6. FIND A ROLE MODEL! Do an informational interview with someone you admire. Ask them how they broke through limiting beliefs and how their “being-ness” supported their success?
If you need some more tools or have more questions, please call my toll free 24 hour pre-recorded information line at:1-800 376-0163 Extension # 86017 for body esteem coaching.
You are worth the 5 minutes it takes to make the call.
Six simple steps to remind you that you are ENOUGH
Step 1. CREATE A PLAN AS IF YOUR LIFE DEPENDED ON IT! Take 15 minutes in the next 24 hours to write out what you want to change in your life to support (your health and) your career. What behavior(s) do you need to let go of that are limiting your success?
Step 2. PRACTICE SOMETHING NEW EVERDAY! Create a daily practice that will bring this new experience to you effortlessly. Write out what you want. Then do something small everyday to support it. It could be reading a daily affirmation , journaling or listening to something positive everyday that will embody this “new way of being.”
Step 3. SHARE YOUR PLAN! Share what you want to create with someone you feel safe with. Just doing this simple act will invoke change. I promise you that. Or hire a coach.
Step 4. ASK FOR A SEPARATION! Ask the voice of your critic, the one that says, “your not working hard enough” or “you shouldn’t have eaten that” to take a break. Let it know you need a separation for the next couple of months.
Step 5. MAKE NOTES TO YOU! Put notes all over your home, workspace, on your nightstand, your bathroom mirror, reminding yourself that you ‘are enough’!
Step 6. FIND A ROLE MODEL! Do an informational interview with someone you admire. Ask them how they broke through limiting beliefs and how their “being-ness” supported their success?
If you need some more tools or have more questions, please call my toll free 24 hour pre-recorded information line at:1-800 376-0163 Extension # 86017 for body esteem coaching.
You are worth the 5 minutes it takes to make the call.
Friday, March 28, 2008
“March Into Greatness”
“March Into Greatness” rolled off of my tongue when I asked myself what I wanted to offer you this month. I love March! Partly because we are getting closer to Winter ending and because of the meaning of the word.
One of my favorite definitions of March is “to progress steadily”. That makes me think of slow and steady wins the race. March is an active word, which means you are in action and the “greatness” part relates to what you want to create this month.
I have a client who has struggled with weight loss for most of her 60 plus years – UNTIL NOW. She recently had a moment after our coaching session, where she was driving down the highway and an inner peace came over her. She actually heard the words, “you can stop struggling now, you no longer have to try to change your size, it will come naturally when you give up the fight”.
From that day forward her weight has been dropping steadily and she is like a new person. Her “march to greatness” was surrendering to the struggle in her mind. What does greatness, look and feel like in relationship to your body and health?
Please email me and let me know. laura@laurafenamore.com
One of my favorite definitions of March is “to progress steadily”. That makes me think of slow and steady wins the race. March is an active word, which means you are in action and the “greatness” part relates to what you want to create this month.
I have a client who has struggled with weight loss for most of her 60 plus years – UNTIL NOW. She recently had a moment after our coaching session, where she was driving down the highway and an inner peace came over her. She actually heard the words, “you can stop struggling now, you no longer have to try to change your size, it will come naturally when you give up the fight”.
From that day forward her weight has been dropping steadily and she is like a new person. Her “march to greatness” was surrendering to the struggle in her mind. What does greatness, look and feel like in relationship to your body and health?
Please email me and let me know. laura@laurafenamore.com
Saturday, March 1, 2008
“Greatness is Marching”
One of my favorite definitions of greatness is, “of outstanding significance or importance; powerful”. What if greatness were as simple as getting you to “move” or “March” to a new beat?
If you are physically active would you be willing to try something new? If I were coaching you I might challenge you to choose an activity that you believe you could not do, and try it anyway. What have you held yourself back from doing physically because you thought you could not do it? For example, if you only do biking, would you try a running or jogging just to mix things up?
If you are inactive and are challenged by being motivated to move, what one thing would you be willing to try? Would walking a block daily 3X’s this week be a good way to start your movement challenge? What about taking that swim at your local YMCA that you always wanted to do but felt too self conscious?
Being in your power means, lifting those beliefs that you have about yourself that are not true. Getting into action will build your muscles in your mind and prove that you can overcome and overturn those limiting beliefs about yourself.
I want to hear how you challenged yourself this week and the “greatness and gratitude” you feel for “marching to your new beat”.
Email me at laura@laurafenamore.com
If you are physically active would you be willing to try something new? If I were coaching you I might challenge you to choose an activity that you believe you could not do, and try it anyway. What have you held yourself back from doing physically because you thought you could not do it? For example, if you only do biking, would you try a running or jogging just to mix things up?
If you are inactive and are challenged by being motivated to move, what one thing would you be willing to try? Would walking a block daily 3X’s this week be a good way to start your movement challenge? What about taking that swim at your local YMCA that you always wanted to do but felt too self conscious?
Being in your power means, lifting those beliefs that you have about yourself that are not true. Getting into action will build your muscles in your mind and prove that you can overcome and overturn those limiting beliefs about yourself.
I want to hear how you challenged yourself this week and the “greatness and gratitude” you feel for “marching to your new beat”.
Email me at laura@laurafenamore.com
Thursday, February 28, 2008
Love Your Body For Good!
Are you struggling with your relationship with your body?
Are you a chronic yo-yo dieter who’s tired of the up and down cycle? Are you ready to lose weight for better health?
I know firsthand that being a happy healthy person requires selfcare to maintain and sustain energy.
I offer one on one coaching, teleclasses as well as workshops to support you in transforming the relationship you have with your body.
Are you ready to take that first step toward building body esteem and a higher self image?
Sign up for a free daily gift and complimentary coaching session at http://www.laurafenamore.com/, PLUS get access to many practical tools about self care and your body. And you’ll be amazed by her personal story of losing 100 pounds and keeping it off for over 20 years! Call my toll free number, 1-800-376-0163, ext. 8601,to receive information about my body image mastery.
Life is happening now. This IS NOT a dress rehearsal. If this is an area of your life that feels out of balance, please contact my office today at 415 464 1234.
Are you a chronic yo-yo dieter who’s tired of the up and down cycle? Are you ready to lose weight for better health?
I know firsthand that being a happy healthy person requires selfcare to maintain and sustain energy.
I offer one on one coaching, teleclasses as well as workshops to support you in transforming the relationship you have with your body.
Are you ready to take that first step toward building body esteem and a higher self image?
Sign up for a free daily gift and complimentary coaching session at http://www.laurafenamore.com/, PLUS get access to many practical tools about self care and your body. And you’ll be amazed by her personal story of losing 100 pounds and keeping it off for over 20 years! Call my toll free number, 1-800-376-0163, ext. 8601,to receive information about my body image mastery.
Life is happening now. This IS NOT a dress rehearsal. If this is an area of your life that feels out of balance, please contact my office today at 415 464 1234.
Thursday, February 14, 2008
Powerful Quotes
In honor of February, which in our culture is love month, I wanted to share some really powerful quotes someone sent to me that will hopefully inspire you to have a better more fulfilling life.
“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. Hate multiplies hate, violence multiplies violence, and toughness multiplies toughness, in a descending spiral of destruction.” “Mankind must evolve for all human conflict a method which rejects revenge, aggression, and retaliation. The foundation of such a method is love.”
“… but on the day when the storms of disappointment rage, the winds of disaster blow, and the tidal waves of grief beat against our lives, if we do not have a deep and patient faith, our emotional lives will be ripped to shreds.”
“We must accept finite disappointment, but we must never give up infinite hope”.
“Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.”
“We must learn to live together as brothers or we are going to perish together as fools.”
“Forgiveness is not an occasional act; it is a permanent attitude.”
And the quote that got me out of my head and into my heart, the one that led me to discovering myself is “the price of freedom is eternal vigilance”. If you want to change something about your life, you must be vigilant.
You cannot stop and start…the growth comes through consistent acts.
If you need more encouragement, email me at laura@laurafenamore.com
“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. Hate multiplies hate, violence multiplies violence, and toughness multiplies toughness, in a descending spiral of destruction.” “Mankind must evolve for all human conflict a method which rejects revenge, aggression, and retaliation. The foundation of such a method is love.”
“… but on the day when the storms of disappointment rage, the winds of disaster blow, and the tidal waves of grief beat against our lives, if we do not have a deep and patient faith, our emotional lives will be ripped to shreds.”
“We must accept finite disappointment, but we must never give up infinite hope”.
“Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.”
“We must learn to live together as brothers or we are going to perish together as fools.”
“Forgiveness is not an occasional act; it is a permanent attitude.”
And the quote that got me out of my head and into my heart, the one that led me to discovering myself is “the price of freedom is eternal vigilance”. If you want to change something about your life, you must be vigilant.
You cannot stop and start…the growth comes through consistent acts.
If you need more encouragement, email me at laura@laurafenamore.com
Thursday, January 31, 2008
News Flash From One Of My Clients
One of my clients asked me if he could share his success story and inner journey with people who were considering working with me. I thought you may find it helpful…My client did all the work and yet the tools I provided him guided his success. He asked me to share the following with you…
After years of severe obesity, over 30 years and yo yo dieting, I decided to sign up with Laura Fenamore’s body esteem coaching program for 6 months. And what a difference. I lost 25 kg (55 lbs) 11 months later. And I gained a lot of self confidence!
Laura helped me dig into my emotional state of being, finding which beliefs were holding me back and holding me accountable for my progress. To summarize here is what I learned working with Laura.
I learned your weight and appearance is not who you and I learned that who I am is ok. I no longer make myself wrong.
I am 100% responsible for my situation.
I learned how to love and accept myself unconditionally.
Healthy eating habits, physical exercise and meditation is not optional for optimal living – it is necessary.
You always know what is right for you; you only need quiet down and listen.
My client is open to speak to anyone who wants to hear about his success first hand. Email me if you would like for me to put you in touch with him.
Wishing you peace as this first month of 2008 comes to a close.
Peace, Laura Fenamore
After years of severe obesity, over 30 years and yo yo dieting, I decided to sign up with Laura Fenamore’s body esteem coaching program for 6 months. And what a difference. I lost 25 kg (55 lbs) 11 months later. And I gained a lot of self confidence!
Laura helped me dig into my emotional state of being, finding which beliefs were holding me back and holding me accountable for my progress. To summarize here is what I learned working with Laura.
I learned your weight and appearance is not who you and I learned that who I am is ok. I no longer make myself wrong.
I am 100% responsible for my situation.
I learned how to love and accept myself unconditionally.
Healthy eating habits, physical exercise and meditation is not optional for optimal living – it is necessary.
You always know what is right for you; you only need quiet down and listen.
My client is open to speak to anyone who wants to hear about his success first hand. Email me if you would like for me to put you in touch with him.
Wishing you peace as this first month of 2008 comes to a close.
Peace, Laura Fenamore
Monday, January 28, 2008
What do you see when you look in the mirror?
My dear friend Joe Tye who is a speaker and writer posed these questions in an email to me which I think you will find valuable…
Question #1: What do you see when you look in the mirror? Is your self-image that of a winner who can substantially determine your future through your actions, or as a victim who is helplessly under the control of other people and outside circumstances?
Question #2: Do you like what you see when you look in the mirror? Low self-esteem is often the excuse we give to rationalize away our cowardice and laziness - if we don’t believe we deserve to achieve and to belong, we’re much less likely to even try.
Any time we look in the mirror and pretend to see less than what is really there, any time we turn our backs on our own incredible potential, that’s exactly what we are doing. I want you to think what it would take for you to be present to the incredible person that you are?
Practice starting today by looking at yourself in the mirror for a minimum of one minute and say wonderful things to yourself….one minute a day to begin. A minute is not a lot to ask for and you are so worth it!
www.laurafenamore.com
Question #1: What do you see when you look in the mirror? Is your self-image that of a winner who can substantially determine your future through your actions, or as a victim who is helplessly under the control of other people and outside circumstances?
Question #2: Do you like what you see when you look in the mirror? Low self-esteem is often the excuse we give to rationalize away our cowardice and laziness - if we don’t believe we deserve to achieve and to belong, we’re much less likely to even try.
Any time we look in the mirror and pretend to see less than what is really there, any time we turn our backs on our own incredible potential, that’s exactly what we are doing. I want you to think what it would take for you to be present to the incredible person that you are?
Practice starting today by looking at yourself in the mirror for a minimum of one minute and say wonderful things to yourself….one minute a day to begin. A minute is not a lot to ask for and you are so worth it!
www.laurafenamore.com
Tuesday, January 1, 2008
Do You Accept The Body You See In The Mirror?
How many of you can relate to this situation? You notice that you put on a few lbs. and you also notice that every time you pass a mirror, you either look the other way, walk as quickly as you can or say something derogatory to yourself? These statements that you say to yourself can be anything from, “your legs and your belly are disgusting” to “you are helpless and hopeless and will NEVER look good”. I have a strong suspicion that many of you can relate to this story. And what I also suspect is that many of you make yourself wrong for not having a perfect body and not having enough “will power” to change it. That somehow if you get the facts right, you will be cured. Here is what I know after years of working as a body esteem coach with hundreds of clients. That negative self talk in regards to our body will forever keep us stuck. That while looking back is necessary; from my vantage point most people stay stuck in the painful story and need concrete tools to move forward.
All forms of abuse have an impact on us. Freedom comes when one begins to change specific daily practices from self abuse to self empowering. Overeating, under eating and controlling one’s diet are all symptoms of a bigger problem called self abuse.
Call her toll free 24 hour pre-recorded information line at1-800 376-0163 Extension # 86017 for body esteem coachingcoaching.
You ARE worth the 5 minutes to make the call!
All forms of abuse have an impact on us. Freedom comes when one begins to change specific daily practices from self abuse to self empowering. Overeating, under eating and controlling one’s diet are all symptoms of a bigger problem called self abuse.
Call her toll free 24 hour pre-recorded information line at1-800 376-0163 Extension # 86017 for body esteem coachingcoaching.
You ARE worth the 5 minutes to make the call!
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